4 Times When It’s Ok To Lie To Your Partner
4 Times When It’s Ok To Lie To Your Partner
The problem: your partner asks you what you think of her decidedly pudgy body
The lie Her question has an emotional subtext, says psychiatrist Dr Paul Dobransky. It’s not about her weight; it’s about the depth of your regard for her. So answer the question she’s really asking.
The payoff When you say, “Your body is one of the wonders of the world” and back it up with a lustful stare, she’ll try to live up to that – at the gym.
The problem: She wants to go to a ballet, museum or some other boring thing
The lie Don’t let on that you think it’s a snooze, says Dr Patricia Covalt, the author of What Smart Couples Know. “Show support and go along.” Ask specific questions, like which painting was her favourite. That shows you care.
The payoff She’ll support your oddities next time, says Covalt. And by making an effort to be interested, you’ll relate to her better.
The problem: It feels as if your relationship is in need of a fire-alarm-loud wake-up call
The lie Compliments can reignite your love. Even if it feels phony, compliment her about something new every day says Dr Paul Rose, chairman of the department of psychology at Southern Illinois University.
The payoff Your relationship will feel fresh as you discover her new qualities, says Rose. And she’ll be happy you’re paying close attention.
The problem: Her favourite sex act is as arousing for you as a pair of granny panties
The lie Give it a go, says Agyei Mensah. Even if you hate it at first, try it three times before you give up. “Focus on how you’re making her feel,” adds Dobransky. “That is a Rosetta Stone for what men and women want in the bedroom.”
The payoff You may end up liking it after all, says Dobransky. And her turn-on is likely to stoke your fires. Bonus: your turn!
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