Bad boys— they possess that certain allure. Women want them and pine for them even. While good guys are busy making homemade valentines, bad boys are busy not calling back. And by some mysterious alchemy, not calling back makes some women pine for them all the more.
Women say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating bad boys. Here’s why.
Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctively don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real”. Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.
No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect = No attraction.
Most people live boring and predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable + No excitement + No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.
Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think that will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.
Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.
Fear of intimacy:
If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.
Women don’t feel comfortable with people who treat them better than they treat themselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief whereas, a nice guy treats you in a way you’re not familiar with.
Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.
Have you ever seen a bad boy who ain’t hot? I’m sure there are a few…, but they won’t be able to get away with half the stuff they do if they don’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot”.