Getting over a bad or messy relationship can be hell, especially when you consider the commitment and inputs you’ve made. Its impact can make you go so crazy that it sometimes calls for speaking to someone who can help. Some people are so lucky that they get over it within the shortest possible time; others take months or years. Some do not get over it at all. It’s very important for us to psyche ourselves up anytime we go through such terrible experiences. I must confess, it’s not easy, remembering all the good times, all the fun, the trips…and suddenly letting go of this whole happiness; but with a determined mind, you are bound to get over it. To help you get over such situations, here are some things you have to do
Keep yourself busy. This might sound simple but it’s really going to help. Staying in isolation or being idle can send your mind probing over the issue. Keeping your mind busy won’t completely keep your mind off it but your attention will be directed towards other things rather than pounding over your lost love
Change the music you listen to. Most people cling to cool music when they get emotional and heartbroken. This kind of music may worsen the whole issue by making you lonelier than you were. If there are tracks that reminds you so much of your ex, better, change and listen to different ones.
Make new friends. As humans, we have a natural tendency to sticking to new things. I’m sure you still remember how obsessed you got when you had your new shoes; same with friends. Finding new friends can help. At least, they know nothing about you and your ex; thus won’t probe into that unless you air it out. Even with that, he or she is going to make sure you are alright before leaving your side.
Be positive. It will be in your own interest not to try the enemy stuff. That is not to say that you should walk and extend a hand of friendship to him or her. Keep your distance! It’s difficult, I must say; thinking positively for someone responsible for your pain. Don’t forget, your thoughts become you and guess you wouldn’t want to be evil over a crazy guy or girl who doesn’t actually know what he or she wants.