I sound a bit harsh don’t I? So ladies you have yourself a good man and you’re happy with him. And of course you are thinking to yourself, “How am I going to keep this man?” “What do I have to do to keep him from cheating?” The answer is, there is absolutely NOTHING you can do from keeping a man from cheating if he wants to. No matter how much time you spend with him, the few hours you don’t spend with him he can be with Kesha from down the block. And on the contrary, you and your man can be miles apart and hardly see each other but he wouldn’t think of cheating. Now you may ask how this is possible.
Plan and simple, men work like this:
One, the more you tell a man he cannot do something the more he is going to want to do it. Your ranting and ragging up and down about how he should not be talking to Kim, Jackie, or Susie isn’t going to make him stop. If anything, it is going to fuel the desire. Remember when your parents told you not to hang out with Jasmine in middle school because she was a bad influence? Damn that crap really pissed you off didn’t it. How could your parents tell you not to hang out with her? They don’t even know her like that. *Fast forward* Oh so Jasmine is knocked up with 2 kids and never graduated high school. All along you knew you parents were right but because they told you not to hang out with her, you did it anyway. Let your man be, stressing him will only push him farther from you.
Two, men are actually rather stupid. Okay maybe stupid isn’t the word. They are just wired differently. The things you think are just common sense are not “common sense” to men. Men tend to focus on one task at a time while we women can have a million things juggled in our minds at once. If he is playing FIFA or watching the Super Bowl, chances are that he is not listening to what you are saying about the shoes you saw at the mall. Also remember that men are not as detailed ordinated as we women are. You show him a peach-colored shirt and he tells you it is pink. Don’t argue with him he just doesn’t get it. And a lot of frustration comes from little things like this. Don’t kill you man with the details of things they see the bigger picture. Work with him there is a middle point in everything.
Three, men thrive on respect and loyalty. Yes it is true. A man is more willing to stay committed to a woman who shows that she can be trusted with all that he is. If your man has any doubt in you, or you can’t show common courtesy for your man don’t be surprised if his eyes start wondering. You are there arguing with him cursing him and all his ancestors out and you wonder why you are having problems. Respect your man please.
In conclusion, men aren’t CHEATING, LYING, HOES. Remember that a man will only do what he believes he can get away with. You set the standards to how he will behave believe it or not. Be patient with him and trust him until he gives you a reason not to…